笨蛋的學習筆記

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Psychological manipulation
Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics. By advancing the interests of the manipulator, often at the other’s expense, such methods could be considered exploitative, abusive, devious, and deceptive.

Requirements for successful manipulation
According to George K Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves:
1. manipulator concealing aggressive intentions and behaviors.
2. manipulator knowing the psychological vulnerabilities of the victim to determine what tactics are likely to be the most effective.
3. manipulator having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim if necessary.

How manipulators control their victims
Harriet B Braiker identified the following basic ways that manipulators control their victims:
Praise, superficial charm, superficial sympathy, excessive apologizing, gifts, approval, attention. Sulking, playing the victim role (“poor me”), emotional blackmail, denial, evasion, diversion, intermittent reinforcement.

Personalities of manipulators
Avoidant personality, machiavelli personality, borderline personality, addictive personalities.

Vulnerabilities exploited by manipulators
“disease to please”, addiction to earning approval, emotophobia, lack of assertiveness to say no, blurry sense of identity, too trusting, too greedy, too lonely.